Memorial Minutes

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“Accepting the fact of death, we are freed to live more fully.
In bereavement give yourself time to grieve.
When others mourn, let your love embrace them.”
~ Quaker Booklet of Advice and Queries

In addition to a Memorial Meeting for Worship, we celebrate the life of all our deceased Members with a Memorial Minute – a lasting appreciation for the life and service of the departed Friend. This Minute is a brief biography, and may also serve as historical documentation of the Member’s relationships to other Members and to the institutions of the Religious Society of Friends.

Harry Bailey

Harry Bailey left this world at dawn on March 5th. He was at his home in Grass Valley, surrounded by his family. He was a few months short of his 99th birthday.

Harry was born in Berkeley, California to Faye and Vernon Kealoha Harris. During high school, Harry’s eyes were opened to social justice and peace issues by a radical young Methodist minister, George Burcham, initiating ideals that would be with him for life. Harry attended Sacramento Junior College and took every chemistry class that was offered. He went on to UC Berkeley and continued studying chemistry but found wider interests, including the Co-op Movement. It was at UCB that he met Lois Waddell. They married in 1942.

    Harry was a conscientious objector during World War Two.  After the war, Harry and Lois settled in Southern California to live in an intentional community with Quaker friends. There they raised their three children; Jeannie, Glenn, and Nancy and helped found the San Fernando Friends Meeting. When the children were young they spent two years in East Africa leading an American Friends Service Committee (AFSC) community development program. Harry served on the national board of the AFSC for many years.

Harry and Lois moved to Grass Valley in 1974, again forming a cooperative community, “Towhee” with other Quakers. Harry and Lois were involved in the Domestic Violence Coalition, offering a safe house for victims of domestic abuse for several years. They participated in the local alternative money system called the “G plan” and an early food buying co-op called the “Grub Club.” He was part of the group that founded the BriarPatch Co-op, where Harry volunteered weekly into his nineties. He was a staunch supporter of John Woolman School, serving on the Building and Grounds Committee for many years. He and Lois were dedicated members of the Grass Valley Friends Meeting. Harry served on Buildings & Grounds, Peace & Social Justice, Ministry & Oversight, and Finance committees. He also hosted Friendly Eights, regularly served on Clearness Committees, and hosted the Friday morning meeting for worship at his home.

Harry was an avid bird watcher in later years. He remained actively engaged with life well into his mid-nineties. Harry is remembered for his beautiful smile, his enveloping and warm hugs, his passion for social justice, his deep concern about climate change, his big heart, and his dedication to cooperative and community values. He made a difference in this world. So many people have loved him and will miss him in this physical realm.

Harry was preceded in death by his beloved, Lois Waddell Bailey, and is survived by his children.

He contributed greatly to fellowship and the sense of community in Grass Valley Friends Meeting.